What the actual...
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Publié :30/5/2019 18h38
Dernière mise à jour :27/10/2020 15h39 5574 vues
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I’ve definitely gotten some oddball messages in my time on this site. Rude ones, aggressive ones, bizarre scenarios, and one very odd marriage proposal. But only rarely do I got something that makes me go… what the actual… well you know. But today I got one.
So here it is...
“It's not worth convincing someone of my worth, I'd rather find some ditch who would go with anyone “
That's the whole message.
So the first part is referencing my profile where I say a guy has to convince me he’s worth it. But the rest…. What exactly is he trying to say with this? Hey I have zero self esteem so you should totally sleep with me? Or I can’t be bothered to make any real effort and I’m just messaging you let you know? Or I’m going to totally disrespect what you said in your profile in the hopes you will reply anyway?
What the actual fuck?
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Just take it as a compliment...
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Publié :17/2/2019 13h33
Dernière mise à jour :30/5/2019 17h03 5914 vues
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There are only a few profiles out there I visit with any kind of regularity. Yet I get messages at least weekly from guys asking me why I view their profile so often and never message.
I have two issues with these messages… firstly that really if a guy hasn’t figured out that the “views” count here works in interesting ways I question their intelligence.
And secondly… and my biggest peeve about these statements… so what if I’ve viewed your profile a million times. I have every right to just enjoy the view. As I’ve said before… viewing is no promise of communication.
And with more thought… actually three issues… the tone. These messages are always accusatory. Really do these guys think being rude/mean to someone will make them want to meet them?
So if it seems I’ve viewed you many times… daily… heck even hourly.
Just take it as a compliment!
And go on with your life.
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Age differences
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Publié :17/1/2019 12h42
Dernière mise à jour :27/10/2020 15h39 6120 vues
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The Oxford Learners dictionary tells me that a cougar is defined as “an older woman who seeks a sexual relationship with a much younger man” So now of course I find myself wondering at what point does and age difference become “much younger”? 10 years? 20? Somewhere in between? More? And what is older?
So yes in my attempts to browse profiles and get back in to this site I’ve been noticing I’m being drawn to many profiles of younger men… and those young life guards at the pool are awfully nice to look at. I don't think I'm quite in cougar territory yet... but I'm not ruling it out for the future.
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I can’t face it.
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Publié :14/1/2019 13h15
Dernière mise à jour :26/6/2020 5h34 5774 vues
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So lacking a regular… or ever semi regular partner these days… okay actually the only sexual excitement lately is when drunk texter of my past posts makes his reappearance and continues to tell me all the ways he’d like to be my bitch. well aware that he’s in a relationship. But the texts are still amusing. *shrug* Back to the point… I really should attempt to find someone new to have fun with. But I this time around finding the thought if sifting through all the emails and messages… and “hey wanna fucks!” overwhelming.
Why finding it overwhelming… that’s somewhat for debate. Is it because the last find was great and a great fit who I needed at the time. Or that crazy picky. Or the fact that my life in general is pretty overwhelming at the moment. Or my really limited free time. Or is it just that it’s January… the anual rush of new male members expecting sex to fall in their lap has greatly diminished the quality of messages in me inbox (not that it’s generally is great).
Basically I can’t face it… and man is it depressing to realize you don’t actually want sex enough to make the effort to find it.
Maybe next month.
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So you want replies
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Publié :6/1/2018 9h49
Dernière mise à jour :18/1/2019 14h44 7388 vues
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I'm mostly venting here... I know most of the guys who will actually read this already know it.
So it's the post holiday season. And we have the annual rush of guys complaining that they don't get replies. All you guys who are currently complaining women never reply. (Mostly all you new members who are just meeting the realities of this site and having buyers remorse.)
I actually did not reply to a message today… one I was going to reply to. Why? Because there on the profile was the comment “it’s only polite to reply” and seriously that comment is pissing me off.
Now a bunch of you are getting your temper up. Probably about to call me names (really polite by the way  ).
But here it is...
I used to try to reply to all decent messages in my inbox. By decent i mean… more than a one liner, and not offensive. As I don’t really play these days my reply was almost always a gentle: “Thanks but no thanks.”
I would say less than 10% of guys respected that answer. Most tried to convince me I didn’t actually know what I wanted. Some got out right rude and resorted to name calling.
And does anyone think those behaviors really made me want to reply and chat more? It quickly became not worth my time.
No matter what you paid for that membership. You are not entitled to replies. You are not entitled to meet someone from this site. Just like in the real world you want a woman to like you and respond to you… you’re gonna have to work at it.
So you want replies… send somethings worth replying too. Fill out that profile. Have a decent picture. And cross your fingers and hope. Sometimes it's all in the timing.
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What do I get out of it….
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Publié :1/12/2017 9h16
Dernière mise à jour :8/8/2018 20h24 7423 vues
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So this recent drunken text event with a friend has got me thinking.
He would like to be able to get together and go down on me on a “time to time” basis. My immediate reaction was no. I like oral… but I do view it as an appetizer to the main event. However, I will admit I’ve never tried just having the appetizer. Maybe it could be satisfying on its own. I mean I like food appetizers on their own… why not sex. But I was still feeling like "what do I get out of this" (oral sex aside.)
As an apology for the drunken texts he took me out to a hockey game. I did teasingly grab his ass (hey he implied I should have done it years ago I couldn’t resist.) Doing that was alike a switch… it was like he had permission to touch now. So he did… in a totally fit for public consumption way (okay the lady with her teenage son next to us might been annoyed with the petting but whatever nobody’s hands got any higher then halfway up a fully clothed thigh.)
And this is when realized while there is still more I could get out of this even without full blown penetrative sex. I am Touch Starved. Have been for years. So even getting my leg petted or hand stroked feels pretty damn amazing to me. That’s what I could get out of this if I took him up on his offer. Regular physical contact with an adult Pure (or not so pure) and simple. He wants to go down on me and submit… trade off… I get petted and cuddled. And get to get off too if he’s any good with his mouth.
Of course it’s not nearly that simple since while I’ve thought of it I’ve never actually been on the Dominant side of the equation. Probably could learn if I really wanted to though. And there’s the fact that I am susceptible to persuasion by touch because I’m so Touch Starved. Makes it seem like a great idea when probably isn’t simply because I want more.
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Something in the water?
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Publié :27/11/2017 16h17
Dernière mise à jour :8/3/2021 20h35 7426 vues
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Okay I’m convinced there’s something in the water.
Today I get a text from a somewhat recent FWB (Mr "I’m in a relationship now but we can keep playing" for those who actually follow my posts) it was in the guise of asking me a question (about buying sex toys for his girl friend… yes seriously.) But sure enough it eventually rolled around to “hey I’m free tonight wanna “get together.”
This on it’s own, not that weird even though it’s been months since I’ve heard from him. But in the last week I’ve had some kind of contact from all my semi recent (last 2 years or so) FWBs looking for hook ups. None of whom I’ve been playing with or even talking to in recent months.
Then throw in the drunk texts from the former co-worker that led to some interesting revelations.
And then there’s me. I’ve had like 12 hours sleep in the last 4 days, have been stressed as heck over school and holiday stuff. Yet… I’m frisky as hell.
So what exactly is the city putting in the water lately?
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You know it’s Friday Night When….
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Publié :25/11/2017 5h33
Dernière mise à jour :8/4/2020 19h04 7500 vues
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You know it’s Friday Night When….
You suddenly start getting very interesting texts from a former co-worker you’ve hardly spoken to in the last 2 or so years. (For the record this is the former co-worker references in my previous blogs Arg and Arg Encore.) The first hint something was up was in the very first text that we should “hook up” for a coffee. Now this guy is not a native Canadian, so I usually allow for some differences in speech/text patterns. But still. By text number 3 he was promising not to hit on me. Text 4 he rescinded said promise and announced he had yet to go down on a Canadian Pussy.
By this point I’m debating if he’s completely drunk or someone has his phone. He then referenced something from work that only about 4-5 people in the world would know with us being 2 of them. So probably is him. Being the good soul I am… I ask if he’s been drinking… just a tad… then minutes later… okay maybe more then usual. But did insist that he defiantly did want to go down on a Canadian pussy specifically mine drunk or not.
(At this point I gave up not laughing at him.)
The propositions continued along these lines for a while. I gently told him if he still wanted to say all these things when sober he was welcome to but nothing was happening tonight.
This dissuaded him for all of 3 minutes.
Then it starts coming out with…. He wants to submit he thinks he might have a fetish. But he’s okay telling me this because… and I quote. “You’re weird which is why I’m kinda okay expressing my freak.” (He's really lucky I'm okay with my weird.)
And the grand finale…. He would apparently really like me to… ahem “Make me your bitch.”
At this point I decided he needed a firm hand (as he clearly desires one) and told him I was ordering him to stop drinking for the night and to go sleep it off. He apparently did as he disappeared after that.
So I’m giving 3 way odds. 60% he’s so embarrassed I never ever hear from him again. 35% Profuse apologies. 5% he does come back sober and says he still wants me to make him my bitch.
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Got up on the wrong side of the bed.
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Publié :14/11/2017 11h30
Dernière mise à jour :18/4/2024 12h22 7361 vues
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I most definitely woke up on the wrong side of the bed this morning. Not enough sleep due to pain from my recently screwed up knee and too much on my mind. The knee was still sore this morning. First message on my phone was not who i wanted to to be from (I know high school girl drama). An email check revealed an itinerary change from the airline for my trip next month. Not happy about the change. General frustration about a lot of things. So in an attempt to cheer myself up I thought I’d pick up a treat for lunch… walk into my restaurant of choice… and it quite honestly felt colder inside than outside. No heat. Now this just seemed to play in to my bad day. So I was all set to come whine on here just because I could. But I got my food to go and as i waited it finally clicked in that nope this wasn’t part of my bad day. In fact someone else was having a worse day. I had to sit there for maybe 10 minutes in the cold. The owner and staff were stuck there. They were likely going to lose the bulk of the lunch customers and that’s a big deal in a small restaurant.
So either I feel better because I realized my day is not all that bad…. Or the fact that someone is suffering worse than me makes me feel better. Not sure which. I really have to stop thinking about these things so deeply.
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The interesting thing about school
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Publié :17/10/2017 10h56
Dernière mise à jour :8/4/2020 19h09 7831 vues
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So I started back at school this fall. It’s been a very interesting experience. At the very least I find myself debating just how opposed I am to the idea of being a cougar as I ogle my sweet young classmates. It’s an intriguing concept. But the surprising for me is just how often I find myself applying class material to sexual topics now.
Ethics… is it unethical to sleep with an attached guy if I don’t actually know he’s attached? (lets be honest some of you are not actually subtle on your profiles though you think you are.)
Basic human needs: Marlow’s Hierarchy…. It is unethical to sleep with my class mates (some of whom are young enough to be my son) knowing I am not currently meeting basic needs for sex.
And here I find myself applying my business communications class to writing this post.
Who knew a dull college program could actually have so many fun aspects?
(disclaimer: before anyone freaks on my head…. No I’m not actually going to go sleep with any attached guys unless their partner approves of such things)
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I don't get it...
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Publié :16/4/2017 15h56
Dernière mise à jour :27/10/2020 15h42 10242 vues
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We’ve all seen various ladies blog posts mocking various messages we’re received. But lately I’ve stumbled across a few that go further. Not mocking the message but bashing the sender about their kinks. Or bragging about the malicious reply they send. Then proudly stating of course after all that they blocked the guy.
Now I’m all for the first type because let’s face it some of the stuff guys send is too funny not to share. But the other kind. I mean this is a sex site. Clearly you are going to meet people with kinks/tastes very different from your own. If you can’t deal with that in a mature way. i.e. Polite refusal or just ignore/block without comment. Well that’s kind sad.
Seriously why do people invest so much effort into something/someone they are not interested in. Why even write that nasty message… and then blog about it. Do they really need to put it out that that they are intolerant/rude just so a few people will respond and give them some positive affirmation. Of course if anyone should respond and disagree they will turn on them with insults and self righteousness.
I don’t get it.
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Inappropriate crush update
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Publié :12/4/2017 18h40
Dernière mise à jour :16/4/2017 12h59 9514 vues
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So after a bit more (successful) online stalking I have decided that no matter how sweet … or even interested my crush seems. I am not touching this one with a 10 foot pole. One facebook profile lead to another and another it seems that pretty much every lifeguard at the pool is in a relationship with another lifeguard at the pool. I have no idea how their manager deals with the drama this must produce on a regular basis. But I have no desire to be evolved in it. So all lifeguards are now banished to the category of scenery. I will enjoy looking…. A lot. But no touchy.
I guess if I want a hot young thing I’ll just have to change up my search parameters on here.
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Yay me!
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Publié :7/4/2017 18h56
Dernière mise à jour :17/2/2020 18h10 9653 vues
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Okay this is a totally just patting my own back. But yay me. I just managed to control my urge to reply to a rude message. Just blocked the guy and moved on. So Yay Me!
I suppose I kind of get the motivation for some guys to send those rude messages... probably more likely to actually get a response. Probably not the one they want though.
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